Is your
relationship going downhill? Maintaining a relationship is not easy and most
couples encounter a few bumps along the road to a lasting relationship. If not
recognized earlier, these bumps could push couples to take the relationship to
the wrong direction leading to break-ups or divorce. It is important to
recognize these relationship killers ahead of time to avoid further damage.
There are reasons why relationships fail and once these reasons are recognized
ahead of time, you'll have a better chance of saving your troubled
relationship. Although no one can enumerate all the reasons why relationships
fail, we have listed here the top reasons. So what are these relationship
killers?
Poor or lack of
communication. One way to connect with each other is for couples to have a strong
and regular communication. Couples tend to drift apart due to poor or lack of
communication. Many relation problems start with lack of communication.
Assuming that you know what your partner or spouse is thinking is dangerous to
your relationship. Misunderstandings and arguments are often the result of not
communicating with your spouse or partner. If this is happening in your
relationship then you should know that this is one of the reasons why
relationships fail and you have to do something to improve the communication in
your relationship.
Not supportive with
each other's goals, ambitions and careers. One of the reasons why
relationships fail is the issues with careers and ambitions between couples.
When two people in a relationship have different goals and ambitions and cannot
compromise or support each other, the relationship may suffer in the end. It is
given that two people naturally have different ambitions and careers to pursue
but in a relationship, it is best to support each other's interest or careers
to avoid strain in the relationship. It is easier to make the relationship work
with a partner or spouse who believes and supports their spouse's or partner's
career. If 100% understanding, acceptance and support is not possible, at least
a partner or spouse should be open to compromise and willing to find a work
around to make both their careers and relationship work. Sacrifices and
compromise is inevitable. Of course, both should know how to balance their
careers with their love life. It is easier said than done but it is not
impossible. There are couples who are both successful in their careers at the
same time lead a happy and strong relationship.
Not getting along
with your partner's friends and family. One of the reasons why
relationships fail is the conflict with people closest to your spouse or
partner. Let's face it, the world does not revolve around you and your partner
alone. There are people around you like friends and families that both you and
your partner cannot live without. Not getting along with people closest to your
partner can put a strain in your relationship. A situation where you and your
partner's mother or best friend can't see each other eye to eye or can't stay
in the same room can be really stressful in the relationship. Holiday dinners
and family gatherings can be difficult if you are not in good terms with your
spouse's family and friends. If you want to create a long-lasting relationship
with your partner, it is best to get along with people important to him or her.
Life's issues and
baggage. There are life's baggage and issues when brought to a relationship can
cause damage. A lingering ex can ignite jealousy, suspicion and distrust that
can put a strain in your current relationship, so it is best to be clear with
your ex that everything is already in the past and that you are serious with
your current relationship. Comparing your current relationship with your
previous relationships is also dangerous and damaging to your relationship.
Children and issues from previous marriage can be challenging and can also
affect your relationship so it important to know how to handle these things and
make your current relationship work. One of the reasons why relationships fail
is the failure to deal with your life's issues and baggage.
Money issues. Financial
issues is one of the reasons why relationships fail. If not addressed properly,
money issues can kill your relationship. The stress brought by financial woes
and struggles can eventually ruin a relationship. People or couples stressed
with financial issues can become irritable, irrational, hostile and cold with
their spouse or partner and these behaviors can slowly kill a relationship. It
is best to be honest from the start about your financial status, be open to
discuss each other's spending habits, money sharing and expenses. With
effective and open-minded communication, strategies and compromise about money,
a financially challenged couple can work things out and can save their
marriage.
Infidelity. Keeping a
relationship between two people is hard enough but involving a third party or
cheating a partner is a bomb that can instantly kill a relationship. Infidelity
is the ultimate relationship destroyer and some relationships won't be able to
survive this. Betraying the trust of your partner is one of the top reasons why
relationships fail. The feeling of being replaced or being betrayed is not easy
to cope with and so the betrayed spouse or partner often walk out of the
relationship. Although there are couples who were able to survive cheating and
make the relationship work again, it is best to not to commit infidelity in the
first place if you want a long-lasting relationship.
Disgusting
behaviors and habits. Although it is true that loving someone includes accepting all his
or her flaws, in reality there are habits that can become annoying over time
and can push your partner to wake up one day and realize he or she wants to get
out of the relationship. Even simple things like not putting back the toothpaste
cap, not making the bed, not putting the soiled laundry in the laundry bin or
leaving dirty shoes and socks around the house can be magnified if things are
not going well in your relationship and these can trigger your partner to
finally end the relationship. Nagging, being a war freak, fighting in public,
humiliating your spouse or partner, name calling or cursing when arguing,
holding on grudges, hitting your spouse or partner when you are angry, throwing
things when arguing, too much or unreasonable jealousy, avoiding discussions
about the issues in your relationship, lying or being dishonest with your
spouse or partner are some of the bad behaviors that can damage a relationship
and could lead to break-ups or divorce. Being in a relationship should teach
couples to be better people and not become worse so it is better to change for
the better to create a strong relationship than acquire unfavorable habits or
behaviors that can eventually damage your relationship.
Things in your
relationship becomes a routine. The fire and excitement in the
relationship could die because you became too comfortable or complacent with
each other that things become more of a routine than an act of love. You become
more like siblings or friends than lovers. Being too comfortable with each
other takes away the excitement and the romance in the relationship and it
makes the relationship boring and a routine. When couples do the same things
together over and over again, they stopped growing as an individual and as a
partner. Break the routine and spice up your relationship. There are things and
interests that you can do separately to grow as a person and there are things
that you can do together to bond with each other. It is important to allow your
spouse or partner to have his or her own space to do his or her own thing or
enjoy the company of his or her friends but it is also important to have time
alone with each other through regular dates or vacations to bond with each
other and create new and exciting memories.
Lack of intimacy
and sex. Life can become too busy and complicated that couples may end up
too busy or stressed for intimacy or sex which is not a good thing in a
relationship. Couples need to connect intimately emotionally and physically and
the best thing to do it is through sex. Sex could dry up in a long-term
relationship and couples tend to have less sex through the years. Couples
should prevent this from happening. Lack of intimacy or sexual dissatisfaction
is one of the reasons why relationships fail. When couples stop having sex,
they tend to get disconnected and detached from each other and they become
susceptible to infidelity. It is best for couples to maintain an active sex
life to keep the connection and make the relationship more alive and exciting.
Although it is important to maintain an intimate connection with your partner
through regular sex, couples should know that it is not good to put pressure on
your spouse or partner to engage in frequent sex. You don't have to have sex
everyday but there are studies saying that having regular sex once a week is
ideal and enough to maintain that intimate connection between couples. There
are many hindrances to accomplish this like stress at work, stress in everyday
life, taking care of the children and the state where you are not in the mood
for sex but like any other issue in your relationship, the frequency and timing
of having sex should be discussed and planned. Intimate connection through sex
is vital in every romantic relationship and when couples are not having enough
connection through sex, they have to do something to fix this problem to save
the relationship.
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