Do you want to create a better future than your past? How do you do that?
How many people do you know that are still reliving their high school days? They are constantly remembering how things were during their senior year in high school, and how wonderful it was. Bet you anything, if they are really truthful about it, when they were going through it, it wasn't so wonderful.
Events have a habit of becoming more pleasant after a few years have gone by and more recent so called unpleasant experiences in our life have obscured the unpleasantness of the past. Granted, there is absolutely nothing wrong with re-living the past, especially something as memorable as most of our senior years in school were.
But, when a person constantly dwells on an event from his or her past and that event becomes their dominant thought, it means your life is not moving at all, you are stuck in the past and there will be no advancement towards what one would deem a better life.
If that is where you want to be, there certainly is nothing wrong with that, if that is truly where you want to be. Many people go through their whole lives reliving the past, and if you past is pleasant enough for you to be content, so be it, more power to you, you may be one of the fortunate ones.
But if you desire to move forward you need to remember your life moves towards what you focus on. Gravity wasn't discovered by someone thinking about sinking, wealth isn't created by continuously thinking about how poor one is. We don't achieve in life by constantly thinking about what we don't want, if you think about what you don't want, that is what you will receive.
If you want to lose weight, you won't lose one pound by constantly thinking about how hungry you are, and you won't get healthy by thinking about how sick you are.
I know that when an unpleasant event happens in our lives, a certain amount of time must be set aside for mourning and reliving the event until the pain subsides and we can move along, however you need to put it behind you as soon as possible and move ahead. This doesn't mean you will never think about it again, you will. It isn't about denial, it is about renewal.
Beginning today, take notice when you find yourself thinking and talking about so-called negative events from your past, and unless you want to reinforce those feelings and continue to experience the same in the future, begin to think about how you want your future to unfold,now is the time to let go of the past and create a new, happier, and more pleasant future.
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